I hear you saying that you know that relationships are all about the heart set but do you really know just how much?

If you are looking for love and are struggling to find it, here is how you can look to your heart set to really find the relationship that you are looking for.

Most people who find love find it when they are not looking for it. Love jumps out of nowhere when they are least expecting and that is it, a wonderful, joyous, loving relationship is the result of what seemed like a random occurrence.

Here’s the thing, it isn’t all that random and is in fact really common for people to fall in love this way. It comes down to the linkage between mindset and heart set.

When you have it in your mind that you are looking for a relationship you are telling yourself that you are in the mindset for “looking”. This is not the same mindset as “finding”. By telling yourself constantly that you are “looking” you are keeping yourself in a looking phase, so you won’t find what you are looking for because that would be a change to a finding mindset rather than a looking mindset.

Confused yet?

When you are looking for love you will say things like, “Why am I not good enough”, “why can’t I find someone decent?”, “Are all the good people taken?” which further reinforces your doubt and worry about finding the right person, it reinforces your thoughts to look for what is wrong with you, to look for someone decent and so on. It doesn’t reinforce any concept of loving or having love. Your mindset is all wrong and you are out of alignment with your heart set.

How do you change it?

To find love you need to start with yourself. Whatever you are is what you will attract to yourself. Everything starts with you and is under your control. Do you love everything about you, all that you are and what you look like? I don’t mean in a hilarious, drunken rambling kind of love yourself. I mean do you have a truly heart felt, deep down type of love for yourself. You need that first before you can possibly love anyone else properly.

If you don’t love yourself then no one else is going to either. Your mindset of how awful you think you are will put off all but the amazing saints who see the good in everyone. So forget that and work on loving you. Feel all of the good things about yourself, from the heart. The same way you would feel about someone you are “in love with.” Work on changing your mind to agree with these warm, happy feelings.

I love myself, now what?

You have got this far, and your mindset is in agreement with your heart set that you are a wonderful human being. You should find yourself to be generally happier at this point as well. Life is brighter and richer and you are at one with yourself and life.

Be open to the opportunities and the friendships that are available to you. Go out, talk to people, enjoy their company and most of all, be happy just being with them. You don’t need to look for a relationship, you don’t even need friends…but they make life fun and interesting so you are out there taking action and letting others know that you are a great, inspiring, wonderful person by the energy coming from your heart.

It will happen when you aren’t thinking about it, it will happen out of the blue and it will hit you like you’ve been clubbed. Life conspires to give you what you want deep in your heart and once you have achieved the point of loving yourself your heart set and mindset will be aligned to loving…so the universe will give you someone equally open to love. It will be magical and amazing but it all starts with you.

So get your heart set into loving you and you will attract love back to you from others without any effort what so ever!

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We have been gifted with minds that no computer can match. In these amazing brains of ours we have an imagination, a series of thought processes, where we can create something from nothing.

Despite the many grand things mankind has achieved by acting upon dreams and imagination there is a downside to this gift. In some cases our imaginations create emotions that don’t serve any good healthy purpose in our lives. Worry is a negative process that has you thinking outside of the now, and creating stress on yourself about something that probably hasn’t even happened yet.

In fact what you worry about may never happen at all!

Be careful what you think of and use the power of imagination to dream of all the good things you want. Follow your dreams with positive actions to make them come to life and you will soon find yourself living a life of happiness and abundance.

You have the power within to achieve whatever you think about; make them good thoughts because dreams do come true.

Simon Cartwright

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We are creatures on a journey, a path, and we are forever changing. Those changes occur in many ways such as looks, opinion, or location and they can be subtle or very obvious. Over time and without regularly talking to our friends, family or colleagues it is all too easy to grow apart. However, you also have the power to bring people closer to you by communicating better and more effectively.

Lack of communication is often what lies beneath the destruction of most relationships. Almost all types of issues in a relationship can be solved by communication so it is really important to maintain a dialogue, particularly in times of disagreement or dispute. That doesn’t mean shouting abuse at each other, it means having a calm, constructive, and mature conversation. In addition, good communication is the best way to strengthen, build and make new relationships.

You have the power within you to build strong and lasting bonds with others. So start a conversation today and enjoy the benefits of having great relationships.

Simon Cartwright

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Have you ever seen a successful person’s diary? It is full, they are always carrying it with them and constantly adding to it. Why? Because a successful person knows that to succeed they need to do as much as they possibly can in each day.

By diarising the things that they want to achieve it focuses their activities and gives an additional commitment to achieving each task. What have you committed to yourself to do today? Are those things going to help you become successful? Can you do more today to get closer to your goals?

We all have 24 hours in a day, however it is what you do with them that makes you a success or not. Don’t put it off until tomorrow, do it today, do it now!

You have the power within you to fill each day to the fullest and to find the energy needed to fulfil all those commitments.

Simon Cartwright

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If you want to be successful you need to learn how to change and adapt because let’s be really honest about this, if you could be successful doing what you are already doing, you would be there already.

Being successful begins with a decision, the decision to change your life and do things in a different way. Often this can be a struggle because change isn’t a natural habit. Like most people you will tend towards a life of stability and consistency.

To be successful your attitude to change will also need to change. You will need to adopt it and make it your own.  It is how you cope with these changes that will determine how successful you can be and you can be very successful.

You have the power within to make and accept changes in your life. So get out there, be bold, be different and be successful.

Simon Cartwright

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Material items should not be the judge of your success and no matter how much or how little you have, your contentment will come from within. The main thing you should be looking at is how you are feeling on the inside. Are you feeling settled, happy and full of energy?

Material items will never be able to give you the true deep down feeling of happiness that makes you feel successful. The only way to truly find this happiness on the inside is to be grateful for who you are. Be yourself, love yourself and be happy with yourself.

People often blame external influences or their history for their feelings about themselves. Yet happiness is a choice and it really has nothing to do with your surroundings or circumstances. When you can find happiness in yourself it will enrich your life and create abundance around you.

You have the power within you to be happy every day you wake up. You can do it, be happy today.

Simon Cartwright

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If you find yourself being told by those around you that what you want to do is risky or can’t be done. If those people giving you this advice are not where you want to be, then you’re probably on the right track. If you feel it in your heart, or your gut feeling is that this is what you want to do then don’t listen to those well-meaning  people who are telling you it can’t be done. Focus on your goals and take those steps into the unknown because they are the ones that will lead you to your success.

The greatest achievers in this world are the ones who have the courage to follow their true hearts desires and not listen to the crowd. If you’re doing what 90% of people aren’t you’ll find you’ll end up achieving what 90% of others won’t. You have the power within you to achieve what your heart desires. You have the power within you to achieve success when the average person tells you it can’t be done.

You have the power within you to forget the crowds and follow your heart. You can do it.

Simon Cartwright

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This affirmation by Napolean Hill has been one of my favourites even before I started being successful in my journey. You can work as hard as you like but if you don’t believe with all your heart, or don’t think you are worthy of success, then it just won’t happen for you.

All successful people have one thing in common. It is not an abundance of knowledge, or talent, or potential, although some of these things are required. The one key factor is self-belief. It is self-belief that will get you to success no matter what that success looks like.

There will always be challenges in your journey to success. However, if you have no doubt in your mind that you will achieve success, then those challenges are easily overcome. Your self-belief will help you drive through every obstacle in your path.

You have the power within you to build that confidence and self-belief so that you too can succeed at whatever your heart desires.

Simon Cartwright

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While getting prepared for an event, task or challenge you will often come across hurdles. As you overcome these hurdles it will help you to grow into the person you need to be in order to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve.

Let us look at baking a cake; if you have the right ingredients and prepare the cake correctly you will be confident the cake will come out right. The more you learn about baking cakes, the better your preparation will be and the better your result. Following from this, the better prepared you are for a situation the more confident you will be of a successful outcome.

Now you’ve probably said or heard people say that if only I knew when I was younger all the things that I know now. All of this amazing knowledge and wisdom you have acquired through learning, preparing, doing and failing at all sorts of things. As you continue to do this throughout your life, the knowledge and learning allows you to make better decisions when preparing for particular situations. This will then give you self-confidence because you’ve learnt what preparation is needed as a starting platform to achieve your success.

You have the power within you so start preparing for your success today.

Simon Cartwright

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Plants left in the dark will grow taller than plants in lighted conditions over a short period of time. The increased growth is a response to the darkness, the plant is trying to grow over anything that may be blocking the light.

As humans we can learn a lot from nature in that our own personal dark moments are where we can learn some crucial life lessons, develop into much better people and “bloom“ if you like.

Quite often in sport you will hear the coach or players say that they learn more from their losses than they do from their wins. When we have a failure of any kind that is the opportunity we have to learn to become better human beings, to grow that little bit faster. You can take those lessons into your next project, relationship, business, sporting match, and you will achieve so much more than if you hadn’t had the disappointments.

It is your choice to learn from your mistakes. You have the power within you so get out there and blossom, you can do it!

Simon Cartwright

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