Heart set in relationships

I hear you saying that you know that relationships are all about the heart set but do you really know just how much?

If you are looking for love and are struggling to find it, here is how you can look to your heart set to really find the relationship that you are looking for.

Most people who find love find it when they are not looking for it. Love jumps out of nowhere when they are least expecting and that is it, a wonderful, joyous, loving relationship is the result of what seemed like a random occurrence.

Here’s the thing, it isn’t all that random and is in fact really common for people to fall in love this way. It comes down to the linkage between mindset and heart set.

When you have it in your mind that you are looking for a relationship you are telling yourself that you are in the mindset for “looking”. This is not the same mindset as “finding”. By telling yourself constantly that you are “looking” you are keeping yourself in a looking phase, so you won’t find what you are looking for because that would be a change to a finding mindset rather than a looking mindset.

Confused yet?

When you are looking for love you will say things like, “Why am I not good enough”, “why can’t I find someone decent?”, “Are all the good people taken?” which further reinforces your doubt and worry about finding the right person, it reinforces your thoughts to look for what is wrong with you, to look for someone decent and so on. It doesn’t reinforce any concept of loving or having love. Your mindset is all wrong and you are out of alignment with your heart set.

How do you change it?

To find love you need to start with yourself. Whatever you are is what you will attract to yourself. Everything starts with you and is under your control. Do you love everything about you, all that you are and what you look like? I don’t mean in a hilarious, drunken rambling kind of love yourself. I mean do you have a truly heart felt, deep down type of love for yourself. You need that first before you can possibly love anyone else properly.

If you don’t love yourself then no one else is going to either. Your mindset of how awful you think you are will put off all but the amazing saints who see the good in everyone. So forget that and work on loving you. Feel all of the good things about yourself, from the heart. The same way you would feel about someone you are “in love with.” Work on changing your mind to agree with these warm, happy feelings.

I love myself, now what?

You have got this far, and your mindset is in agreement with your heart set that you are a wonderful human being. You should find yourself to be generally happier at this point as well. Life is brighter and richer and you are at one with yourself and life.

Be open to the opportunities and the friendships that are available to you. Go out, talk to people, enjoy their company and most of all, be happy just being with them. You don’t need to look for a relationship, you don’t even need friends…but they make life fun and interesting so you are out there taking action and letting others know that you are a great, inspiring, wonderful person by the energy coming from your heart.

It will happen when you aren’t thinking about it, it will happen out of the blue and it will hit you like you’ve been clubbed. Life conspires to give you what you want deep in your heart and once you have achieved the point of loving yourself your heart set and mindset will be aligned to loving…so the universe will give you someone equally open to love. It will be magical and amazing but it all starts with you.

So get your heart set into loving you and you will attract love back to you from others without any effort what so ever!

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